"People-Pleasing is not the same thing as love; in fact, in many cases it is a major cause of the erosion of love. Nor is People-Pleasing the same thing as care, compassion, sympathy, or empathy." The book goes on to say...
People-Pleasing involves:
- putting the wants of others above one's own needs
- avoiding conflict
- basing self-worth on others' reactions
- feeling trapped, often to the point of martyrdom, by others' needs
- and keeping silent about one's own needs, wants, and opinions
Do you ever feel like you are willing to do so much more for others than they are willing to do for you? I love doing things for others but I have to learn when to say no. Being willing to help others out has brought me to burnout more than once and I've felt used by them.
I would much rather people like me because I'm me. How about you?
This last picture really made me think. What were we put on this earth for? Was it to please people or to please God? I believe it was to please God. I believe we are here to bring honor and glory to the One who created us in our mother's wombs. I'm ready to focus on pleasing Him instead of people. Are you?
One of my favorite scriptures is Psalm 139. God has been speaking to me so much through the verses in this chapter over the past few years. Here are a few of my favorite verses.
Psalm 139:13-18 (NIV)
For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts, God!
How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
they would outnumber the grains of sand—
when I awake, I am still with you.
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts, God!
How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
they would outnumber the grains of sand—
when I awake, I am still with you.
I hope you know that He created us and that all of us are so special to Him.
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